PLEASE REMEMBER: Once the immediate danger has passed, it makes sense to put some preventative measures in place to prevent it happening again. We need to reach out from the place where we are. Isolation is a very real danger to us all. It feels 'right' to hide within ourselves, but we cannot afford to isolate ourselves forever. It really is too dangerous.. We must try not to leave it too long before we reach out for help. It really will not get any easier with the passing of time. We must not be afraid to reach out for assistance. We are not begging for charity. Instead we are reaching  out for help (which we feel able to accept ) from the individuals we feel able to accept it from.  A family member, partner,friend or colleague. Doctor, nurse, health service practioner, priest etc. Anyone you feel to be trustworthy. If you are unable to do this, why not use a telephone help-line. Organisations like The SAMARITANS are there to talk (and much more importantly = to listen)  24/7. If you recognise that your crisis is out of control and your coping strategies are breaking down - go to your nearest hospital emergency admissions department, and let them know of your situation. IT IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO RE-ESTABLISH OLD FRIENDSHIPS WHICH COULD NOW BE SERIOUSLY DAMAGED. INSTEAD, TRY TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH NEW PEOPLE. SUPPORT GROUPS ARE HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU WANTED TO END YOUR SUFFERING - YOU DIDN'T WANT TO DIE If possible we should get rid of everything which we could use to kill ourselves with. We are stongly advised to get rid of all the bad things in our lives which have caused us so much pain.   Avoid abusive bullying people who cause pain, distress and misery. If you are trapped in an abusive relationship, get help and get the Hell out of it, while you can. Avoid everywhere where we feel threatened, sad, distressed or just uncomfortable. We should avoid any and all situations which cause us stress, unhappiness or pain. We should think of the positive things which brought us happiness in the past. Imagine doing them again.   At the same time we must avoid BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES which can make us maudling and depressed. We should try to structure our days around doing the things which we used to enjoy doing.   At the same time (and this is important) avoid doing the things which can damage us, or cause us pain. We should concentrate on living one day at a time. When we relax more we can make it two days. Then three etc until we can plan next years vacation without worry. Try to rediscover the activities which we used to find highly pleasurable.    Try to consider the suffering that your death would cause.  Never forget suicide crises do pass.   Finally, the idea of anyone committing suicide to somehow teach someone a 'lesson' really doesn't work.    Anyone who doubts this simple truth should speak with the families of suicides.    To understand HOW YOUR SUICIDE WOULD DESTROY THE LIVES OF YOUR LOVED ONES you could contact Survivors of Bereavement groups. Speak with one of their members, or counsellors, or simply ask to attend one of their meetings.   I'm sure that learning of the devastation that suicide inflicts upon those left behind by their own loved ones would make any human being think twice about their actions.   http://dasisignpost.tripod.com/aftermath The following DASI websites may be of use in helping you diffuse a suicidal crisis   http://options4recovery.tripod.com/   http://dasisignpost.tripod.com/dasi Please don't forget your crisisline number Australia 1800-193-193. Canada 1-800-667-5005. Eire 1850-60-90-90. New Zealand 0800-543-543. South Africa 0861-322-322. United Kingdom 08457-90-90-90. United States 1-800-784-2433. .